Friday, June 12, 2009

Kenneth's Beam

I am reading over my posts from way, way back, and i think this is one of the most interesting stories i have on my roll. When I was reading this, I felt like I was living through such a pleasant and beautiful moment with Kenneth. It makes me wonder how the kid is doing now, actually, over the years (beginning from year 2006, when I first met him) I get to think of him once in a while. He may already have turned 11 this year. I hope there's a way for me to see him again, to say hello and witness the beam on his face; to hear him play the piano again; to know how his grandmother and aunts have been doing; to recognize the beauty of life in the eyes of the child.





Dec 22, '06 6:49 AM
First quarter of this year gave me the chance to explore the other side of life. In one of our courses, we were required to find best practices of Corporate Social Responsibility by business corporations and enterprises. Through the genuine effort of my group mates in this project I was able to find new lessons in life.

It was the Philippine Airlines Foundation headed by Tita Menchu Sarmiento who was very kind to help us in this project. As of interest, she indulged us in several projects and programs of PAL foundation. However, there is one case that really touched my heart. Perhaps that case alone is enough for me to opine that PAL really does practices CSR at its best.

Tita Menchu insisted to bring us to Manggahan, Pasig, were the lead of my story reside. Kenneth Villa is 8 years old and is suffering from a rare mucopolysaccharide (MPS) disorder called Morquio Syndrome (MS). As of yet, there are only 3 known cases of MS in the Philippines. Kenneth who is one of them, has been bedridden for the last 4 or 5 years, flat on his back, with a tracheotomy tube attached on his throat and is hooked to a ventilator.

According to Mucopolysaccharide Association Disorder Fact Sheet, MS is an inherited affliction classified to the group of Mucopolysaccharide storage diseases. It is a condition where cells are not functioning properly, induced by the store up. It prompts damage to the body including the heart, bones and the central nervous system.

Kenneth’s MS may have been caused by a recessive gene. It is usually acquired from an adult carrying an abnormal gene and marries another carrier. Only one in every four chances with every pregnancy that the child will inherit the defective gene.

What makes Kenneth’s case extra special is that his parents abandoned him. While he is under the care of his aunts (sisters of the father), his father now refuses to recognize him. In their small home in Pasig, Nicole (my group mate) and I met Kenneth and his aunts plus Lola Edna, his grandmother. Everybody welcomed us as if we were no strangers at all. Initially, I felt like we were family to them, they even prepared food for us.

Kenneth’s room is maintained and highly sanitized. When we entered his room, he just finished watching morning cartoons from a local network. Tita Menchu introduced us to him, and he was a bit shy. According to his aunt, Kenneth would shy away every time he would see girls. Then I openly asked questions about him. I commenced by inquiring about his favorites. When he started to answer, I noticed the gasp every time he speaks – must have been the tube attached to his throat. While engaging some small talks with him, I felt some throb in my heart, which would usually bring me to tears. But then, I didn’t even have to shed a tear because Kenneth was just so charming that he would make everyone smile. I would tease Nicole, because Kenneth would only smile and talk to me. Nicole would just say “ay bakit kaya?” then Kenneth would beam.

There were moments of silence, as Tita Menchu would talk to Kenneth. Kenneth speaks to her like she was a real mother and she too like a mother checking on how the day was for her child. I am moved when I learned from Lola Edna that there have been several friends who comes to visit Kenneth once in awhile. And those friends as Lola Edna would say, are not ordinary people; they are well-known, the “celebs” as others would put it. Kenneth’s Aunt gave me an album to browse upon. Lola Edna was right when she said that Kenneth’s friends are no ordinary people, I saw them in the album. Actually, I was surprised because they are not only celebrities in their field but people who are really shining because of their genuine heart to help him.

Lola Edna shared the story of Kenneth. Can I just say, “Man, if you hear the story, you’ll surely cry a river!” But no, I didn’t because I was very keen at Kenneth who was very quiet. I noticed that Kenneth was not reacting. I don’t know if he was listening but he was just staring at us as if waiting for our eyes to meet. When we did, he gave me a smile, I would jokingly say something, and then he would snicker. Lola Edna would smile every time he sees Kenneth smiling.

According to Lola Edna she almost lost everything, including her family. She used to own a sari-sari store outside their compound but she had to close it because of financial burdens. I guess I would not have to elaborate that part. We all know how much an illness would cost. Her family was divided when Kenneth’s father refused to recognize him after marrying abroad. Kenneth’s father works in Dubai and would usually come home to visit him until he was two years old. His father’s siblings were divided on the issue of keeping Kenneth under the custody of Lola Edna. But his aunts surely stuck it out, no matter what. In spite being college graduates and having stable jobs overseas, they decided to help Lola Edna with Kenneth. I didn’t see any remorse in the faces of his aunts; they seem to enjoy taking care of him.

I saw Kenneth press the telephone near him. At first I thought it was just one of the things that entertains him. Then his aunt suddenly entered the room with some medical and cleaning tools. Alas! It was already time for his “suction”. I inquired about it, and then his aunt said it is to help the breathing of Kenneth. I could not even imagine how it is to breathe through the tube.

Earlier then, while I was inquiring about Kenneth’s favorites, his aunt mentioned that he loves to play the piano. He has a talent for music. He owns a battery-operated keyboard. Then he started to hit those notes with his frail fingers. I was so amazed that he could play perfectly well even with feeble hands. He played several pieces, but he caught my heart when he played my favorite song “Somewhere Over the Rainbow”. I grabbed my phone to take some pictures of him, and he would pose for a smile. His aunt took some pictures too, because according to her, Kenneth really loves to see photos of people who visit him.

Want to be awed more? Well, he has read a lot of books and knows a lot of things – Kenneth is very smart. Some good heart gave him a laptop and I bet he is better in operating those tech objects than me. He owns a cellular phone, and he didn’t forget to give me his number so we could send messages once in awhile. His aunt said, he must have liked me that’s why he was sharing a lot of himself to me, to us.

I wonder where he draws all the courage to hurdle all the oddity in his life and face the world with precious smiles. Despite his enfeebled body, marvel how this young boy manifest his gifts and talents and share it with others. If the child really did like me, I like him a lot, too. He is very special, and God knows how I admire his strength and faith. It must have been the people around him, Lola Edna, his aunts and his friends, they help him enjoy his life notwithstanding what has been bereft of his childhood. Or probably its God’s desire to show the world how much he loves us. That whatever he may not have been able to give us, he makes it a point to make up at other aspects of our life, all else being equal. Go figure. I can say that physically, I may have been blessed compared to Kenneth, but who said he isn’t blessed at all? Did I ever mention his smiles? If I didn’t then, I must have to stress that it is his blessing. Kenneth’s smile is a blessing because it has made a lot of people happy and appreciate life. Proof to that, allow me to say, that somebody like me did experienced it and so are the people who knew him personally and those who have yet.

Perchance our destiny have been predestined once. Kenneth may have had a sordid one, but he is not complaining. He is satisfied with the environment that he is exposed to. He may not have his biological parents around him, but that does not leave him without parents at all. Lola Edna and Kenneth’s Aunts were able to do it, in the context of love and understanding.

Kenneth’s story has given me a repository of extra-ordinary graces. It will forever illuminate my spirit as I recall the strands of determination and leap of faith that he make in his embraced life.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

In cognizant

Random Thoughts for today:

- I have revisited old sojourns, old thoughts, old friends from my re-blog-sitory. Wow! I felt so happy looking back in the past. I cringed several times for having to write whatever that was written in those rolls. Its good to chronicle things because somehow it can be the source of all sources of happiness or sadness, even foolishness. Before the week ends I should blog about some things i failed to write about especially when I was in the middle of writing my beloved thesis (ack!)

- In the middle of a chat with a friend, i speechify some gender-sensitive thoughts: sometimes we (women) expect them (men) to know everything about us, to do everything for us, we expect them to read our minds, we expect a lot from them....like for a guy friend to like us, even if he's not really into us....and then when they fail to do these and whathaveyou....we get mad...we rage, we loathe, we despise them...and make them feel like they're the most useless, stupid and insensitive creatures on earth. While they can sometimes get into our nerves...and they can really be so annoying at times....more often than not, we are so damn blinded by our love or like for them...now, that's certainly a guilty pleasure for all of us...women out there. I, myself is guilty of that, and sometimes, how i wish to sing Beyonce's song...if i were a boy...and make it real...at least no heartaches, no pains.

Gee, how could i have entertained such thoughts...pathetic...but maybe that's the effect of having been so used to miss busy bee life, then suddenly finding yourself free as a bird.

- I have a lot of plans...but this flu...argh, i don't like this feeling. I don't like to be sick. I wasn't able to give my present to some friends in the University, which I promised to deliver beginning last two weeks ago. I haven't finish sending my new contact number to people...and having to migrate all those numbers...it kills me. I wasn't able to pay my almost due bill. In the coming days, I will try to do all these and begin with my projects like organising scrapbooks of my 2007 spring sem...of my recent trips, etc.,etc.When I am well, i will meet my girl friends...to laugh and prattle.

- Apart from all these, my heart is beating happily, these days. Why?Because... :D

Friday, May 8, 2009

50 Questions to while away with time

01. Who was your last text from?
Mark V.

02. Where was your default picture taken?
i don't see any photo!

03. Your relationship status?
single and ready to mingle

04. Have you ever lost a close friend?
NO.

05. What is your current mood?
Happy!

06. How many siblings do you have?
2

07. Whats your brother(s)/sister(s) names?
My sister's name could be spelled with an 'i' or a 'y'
My brother's name can be pronounced with short or a long 'a'

08. Where do you wish you were right now?
in a 5-star hotel room...perhaps in the plane...business class

09. Have a crazy side?
YES.

10. Ever had a near death experience?
NO.

11. Something you do a lot?
haha! Thesis?!


12. Angry at anyone?
NO.

13. What's stopping you from going for the person you like?
distance...he's on the other side of earth.

14. When was the last time you cried?
sometime ago.

15. Is there anyone you would do anything for?
It depends.

16. What do you think about when you are falling asleep?
what would be the last thing i would be thinking before i lose myself to sleep

17. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?
Niks

18. What is your favorite song?
Wouldn't it be nice - Beach Boys!!!

19. What are you doing right now?
multi-tasking: watching tv and answering the 19th question

20. Who do you trust right now?
secret.

21. Where did you get the shirt you are wearing?
from my last trip in Hong Kong

22. Have you kissed someone in the past week?
NO.

23. Who is your friend that lives closest to you?
haha! ktensky!

24. Describe your life in one word.
dream.

25. Who are you thinking of right now?
Alex

26. What should you be doing right now?
Working on my thesis

27. What are you listening to?
the wind...

28. Who was the last person who gave you a hug?
kten

29. Who was the last person who yelled at you?
none, but i remember yelling at someone!

30. Do you act differently around the person you like?
i think so...yeah maybe

31. What is your hair color?
black

32. Who was the last person to make you laugh?
ktensky

33. Who was the last person to make you sad?
none.

34. What do you hear?
i can hear my heart beating

35. Is your hair curly or straight?
its wavy

36. Has anyone ever called you "scrumptious" before?
NO

37. Do you have a best friend?
yes...and she can be my online diary

38. Held hands with the opposite sex in the past 3 days?
duh, NO!

39. Do you use smiley faces on the computer?
YES, all the time.

40. Have you ever changed clothes in a vehicle?
hahaha! YES.

41. Are you happy with life right now?
I couldn't complain!

42. Are you currently jealous?
NO.

43. What jewelry are you currently wearing?
a pair of earrings

44. What were you doing on friday night?
today is a friday night, and im not out!

45. Have you ever had your heart broken?
Maybe NO.

46. Have you ever broken someone's heart?
NO. why would i do that

47. Is there anybody you're really disappointed in right now?
NO.

48. What was the last reason you went to the doctor for?
Annual Physical Exam... and i hate the sight of that tube with a noozle sucking my blood

49. How late did you stay up last night and why?
10 pm...

50. Have you ever dated someone longer than a year?
NO.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

In the middle of things

It's great to enjoy the "fun experience" once in awhile..and to be away from it, is to feel so deaden.
After the much hyped trips from Hong Kong to Thailand to Zamboanga, I feel so away from the world. And as much as I would want to think of those trips (which by the way, I haven't blogged about), I can't...it's thesis we're talking about here!!!

I shall resume when all else are done. Submission is coming...defense too! See you after the tragedy!!!

Friday, January 23, 2009

Hong Kong January Trip

Today, is the first day of another HK trip; My first for this year. :-)

I left Manila at 540, arrived in HK 20 minutes earlier than ETA...Thanks to Cebu Pacific!I noticed though that alot were flying to Hong Kong. I am seated on 1A and front row seats are all taken.

At HK, everything seemed to be in the same place, just like how it was when I was here last September. That's good to know, the only thing that I have to worry about is whether I still remember everything I need to know from my last flight.

I stayed at HKIA to have breakfast at Burger King, and then everything started from there. I took the bus, because it's much cheaper than taking a cab or the Airport Express train. I had to worry though, about where to get off. At one point, I thought I missed my stop and I want to blame my having no sense of direction. But my memory serves(although its a digressed version- selective memory, and went down at Quarry Bay. I took 2A bus, and boy did I feel triumphant!!!Great Great!

I arrived at Saincair's place. Then, decided to leave her place at 12 to visit her at Lingnan. At Lingnan, I sighed as I catch my breath while walking at a faster phase. I was received by Sainclair at Hostel F lobby. Goodness, why do I feel a throb in my heart?! I laughed at the thought of the past. It kinda hit a nerve there yah know!

At room, I want to turn back the time. I miss my room, my desk, the view from my window, my roomate. I miss the codes I have to memorize to access the gates and he lavatory. I miss LU and I miss hostel life.

Here's the catch: As I remember the places and people who forms part of that episode in my life. I saw a lot of foreign-looking students gathering in main entrance of LU. They are this school year's spring sem exchange students. Not just a throb in my heart...I felt something I could not explain...I imagined everything...how it was when I was that exchange student experiencing LU. Sainclair and I took the 67x, back to reality...I'm not an exchange student anymore, I am a tourist now;It's not gonna be a 6-month stay...its just a visit until February. So I shall enjoy this visit, especially since, it's Chinese New Year. Kong Hei Fat Choi!!! Lai Si Tau Loi!!!

Friday, December 5, 2008

Tagaytay Chill

My friend in her usual spur-of-the-moment invited me to go to Tagaytay today. No plans really, as it was meant to chill over stress and what-have-you of life. So she swinged to my house at around 7, we arrived Tagaytay between 830 to 900, had dinner at Pancake House. Yes, Pancake House, and so?! we just want to have our dinner in Tagaytay, so it didn't really matter which resto to eat. Had coffee at Starbucks, and chat over a lot of things. Then she dropped me off to my house at 12.

You bet! t'was really a great time. And though we chilled at the regular food establishments we visit around Manila none of it is disappointing. Obviously, there's nothing really special to go to these places when you know these are next door favorites. But heck, the point of our trip is to chill. So we did, literally.

A certified Tagaytay chill, coffee anyone?!

Postcard from Lebanon

Today, Alex just made my day! :-)
For the longest time, I've been waiting for a promised parcel from Germany or from Scotland where he is currently enrolled. This year we've been keeping in touch, exchanging hi's and hello's from wherever we are on earth. And in between those chats and musings, he'd never fail to make promises. Today, at least for once I could say: i so believe his promises! yay! so sweet of him! Its like forever whenever we're not speaking, but with him yesterday is like today. He's his usual carefree guy in our International Organization Class in 2007, or that endearing, silly exchange student from Aberdeen, who never fails to play tricks when he wants to.






So here's my shout for you:
Mr. Isele, you really know when to make me smile! thanks for remembering me all the way from Lebanon. I know you've been busy with all your interviews for thesis. I hope they're all friendly and nice to you. Don't forget to thank the owner of the flat where you are staying (haha! that is, if you have any intentions to inform him that you're using his place!) Say hello to Foucault, I know he's not easy to understand, but trust his theory, and you won't have any problems with your framework. I shall be online in skype, to see how my thesis buddy has gone far. You're almost there, and so am I?! (that's if i'd make good with my defense on March).I shall see you and your degree, ill bring mine too, if i make it this year (i'm keeping my fingers crossed). We shall see at least!

Always.